Why Every Relationship Should Have One ‘Thinker’ And One ‘Feeler’
People are random and unpredictable. We spend our lives trying to figure them out, to calculate their moves and guess their feelings. Yet, while there will always be a sense of mystery, there are consistencies in the randomness of human behavior.
According to the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), a questionnaire designed to indicate psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions, there are two rational approaches to how human beings make decisions: being a thinker and being a feeler.
If you look at life’s problems rationally and with calculation, you’re a free thinker. If you put more weight on people’s feelings and reactions, you’re a free feeler.
Some of us apply logic and facts before making a move while some of us can’t do anything until we think of how it’s going to affect us and those around us. Some of us are all about objectivity, and some are all about subjectivity.
And while there is no wrong way, the combination of these two ideas makes for the ideal relationship.
This is less about opposites attract and more about how two different approaches to problems and situations is ideal. Because when one partner is focusing on the hard facts of the situation, the other is focusing on feelings and overall mood of the situation. When one partner is about expressing the hard truth, the other is about expressing a softer, easier to version to swallow.
Relationships are all about balance — you want a head and a heart.