One, remember that love is a powerful attraction. Having and cultivating loving actions and feelings for our mate is likely to enhance our attraction for them. The more we feel love for our mate, the more attractive they become. The more we are bonded and connected to our mate, the more we will be attracted to them.
Two, remember that love is a verb. Too often we wait to feel love instead of involving ourselves in the act of loving. Consider the positive qualities in your mate and appreciate them for those traits. Notice the wonderful unique qualities of your mate and love those traits.
Three, explore and cultivate a deeper relationship with your mate. We are all like onions with many layers and complexities. Relating can be like an incredible adventure, seeking to unearth hidden qualities and making exciting discoveries. Each new discovery will help you feel more attracted to your mate.
Four, become active, not passive. Don’t wait for attraction to land on your lap. Enjoy and appreciate each other, finding new activities to do together. Tell your mate how they can become more attractive to you and what they would like to become more attracted to you. Be active in creating and cultivating a friendship with each other. Additionally, stop the comparisons. A glance is one thing; a longing fantasy for another is something entirely different and is very hurtful.
Five, develop a heart of gratitude for your mate. Notice what you can be grateful for with your mate. A heart of gratitude is likely to increase your attraction to your mate. Scripture says, “Let them give thanks to the Lord for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds for mankind, for he satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things”.
Finally, cultivate a spiritual connection to each other. Praying together is a powerful way to enhance attraction to our mate. Share common dreams, missions and purposes with each other. Become involved in something larger than you—a common passion. This is likely to link your hearts together.