An extra-marital affair may be a way for him to boost his self-esteem. If a man, in any way, feels inferior to his wife, he may feel the need to massage his ego. This normally happens if the wife plays a dominant role in the family. A man might deviate towards other women, to feel in control of his life and decisions. Also, many men with an inferiority complex might turn towards other women just to feel good that they are still wanted by the opposite s*x.
The growing monotony in your love life can make your husband stray away. In most relationships, lovemaking is an important way of expressing love towards each other. If this aspect of your marriage becomes dull and tedious, then your husband can look for ‘spice’ outside your marriage. And, if the intimacy between you and your husband has totally ceased to exist, then he might be cheating on you to find that ‘satisfaction’ in someone else’s arms
He may not be serious about being in a relationship with someone else. But, he may just want to know how it feels to be with some other woman. At times, extra-marital affairs may be a husband’s way of adding (cheap) thrill to his otherwise mundane life. Many men just want to experience the thrill of cheating on their wives. And for some, it may even be a way to fulfil some wild fantasy!
Many men shy away from talking about their ‘unconventional’ s*xual orientations openly, whether before or after marriage. So, it is quite possible that your husband is a closeted homos*xual. You may have seen him getting ‘uncomfortably’ close or friendly with other guys. He might not have told you for fear of stigma in the society. As his s*xual orientation is different, he will seek people outside marriage, to satisfy his need for love and intimacy.
The cupid’s arrow can strike anyone, anytime! So, it is quite possible your husband is not just indulging in a ‘physical relationship’; and that it is something deeper and more meaningful. Emotions and feelings are beyond a person’s control. So, he may have fallen in love with another woman.
Well, whatever the problems be in your relationship, talk it out with your partner. If for no other reason, then just to get some closure for your sake.