For many, a passionate kiss is a confusion that always goes wrong. Use these 10 tips on how to kiss passionately to enjoy a perfectly romantic kiss. By Erica Patterson
A kiss can tell a lot about a couple and their prospective romance.
Or so we’ve been told since forever.
Get the first kiss wrong and it probably means there’s no chemistry in the relationship.
With so much pressure on kissing, it’s obvious that you need to be a good kisser.
Some guys and girls are great kissers. And some, well, just aren’t.
So what makes the difference between a perfect passionate kiss and a dead fish?
How to kiss passionately
A kiss is all in the experience. And if you knew a few things about passionate kisses, you could be a great kisser in no time.
In reality, there is no good kisser and no bad kisser.
There are just kissers who kiss well and kissers who don’t kiss well.
Think of it this way, you may be a good driver. But when you drive a new car for the first time, will you really be as comfortable with the new car as much as you were in your old car?
In life, everything takes some time to fit in.
And just like that, a passionate kiss needs time too.
Most people rush into a kiss because that’s the way they show it in the movies.
In a romantic movie, the first kisses are always so perfect, romantic and passionate. But in life, it’s better to be safe than sorry. After all, there is no rewind button in real life. [Read: 6 ways to accidentally kiss a friend and get away with it]
10 tips to a passionate and romantic kiss
If it’s a first passionate kiss or one of the first few you’re exchanging with your new lover, it’s always better to take your time.
Get comfortable, learn from each other and take things slow. Use these 10 tips on how to kiss passionately and you’ll definitely be a great passionate kisser before you’re through with this feature.
#1 Take it slow. Don’t jump into the kiss. Take it slow and even if you start off with a kiss on the lips, don’t focus just on the lips. Move your lips away slowly after a first few kisses on the lips and graze your lips against your partner’s neck or chin. Breathe into your partner’s skin and you’ll feel a lot more romantic and sensual. Spend a while warming each other up to a good kiss and take it slow.
#2 Linger between kisses. When both of you start kissing, kiss each other for several seconds at once without forcing your way in. Don’t worry about how long the kiss lasts as long as you feel comfortable.
Don’t stick your tongue into your partner’s lips immediately. Take your time and test the water by playing it slow. Always wait for your partner’s reciprocation before going too far. Take time between each kiss by parting your lips from your lover but keep them really close, almost at the point of kissing again.
#3 Touch each other’s face. A passionate kiss involves more than just the kiss. As you kiss each other, touch your partner’s face and shoulders with your hands. You could also clasp your partner’s hands with yours, just as long as everything you do is subtle and delicate. [Read: How to make your boyfriend want you more than ever]
#4 Don’t be distracted. When you’re kissing someone passionately, you need to stop getting distracted by anything else. Just close your eyes and enjoy the sensation. If you’re distracted, your partner won’t feel the intimate connection and would end up experiencing a less than pleasurable kiss.
#5 Passion isn’t just experienced on the lips. If you want to know how to kiss passionately, you need to remember this fact. A kiss is just a kiss. It’s what you do while kissing that makes a kiss passionate. While kissing your partner on the lips, part the kiss to move your face lower and kiss your partner’s ears, chin, and areas around their lips and even the neck.
#6 Get aggressive now and then. Passion is nothing but sensuous aggression. Now that you’ve been kissing your partner for a few minutes or even seconds, push your partner’s face back with your lips or by holding the hair at the back of their head. By doing this, you’re taking a perfectly romantic kiss and turning it into something passionate and s*xy.
But no matter how aggressive you get when you’re experiencing a s*xual high while kissing, always go back to soft relaxed kissing. A burst of passion feels great and makes a good change of pace when you’re kissing for longer than a few seconds.
#7 Use your hands. Move your hands over each other’s backs and in front too, if both of you are comfortable with it. Soft sensual touches always have a way of bringing more passion and romance in the air. [Read: How to touch a woman’s bre*sts while kissing her]
#8 Keep it wet without getting drooly. Wet kisses are extremely passionate, but there’s a thin line between passion and drool. While good kisses are a turn on, drooling kisses are a big turn off. When you kiss your partner, they need to feel your moistness on their lips. But yet, it should never be overdone.
To test your kiss, kiss the back of your palm for a second right now. Do you see any moisture on your palm? If you see a round circle of wetness, you’ve overdone it. If you see nothing on your palm, that’s not good enough. The perfect initial wet kiss is one in which you see just a thin surface of moisture on the back of your hand which dries up within a few seconds after you’ve kissed the back of your hand.
By getting familiar with this kind of a kiss, you’d know exactly how much you need to part your lips while kissing someone and just how wet your kiss has to feel to leave them with a good experience. And even when you kiss your partner on the neck or anywhere else, use this very kiss. A cool sensation that dries up almost immediately can feel s*xy and full of passion while making out. [Read: How to get a guy to kiss you when you want him to]
#9 Don’t hurt each other. Don’t bite hard or give hickeys unless your partner wants it. Yes, it’s easy to get carried away when you’re on a passionate high, but you’ll end up hurting your partner or give them a less than enjoyable experience when you tug at something or knead something really hard.
#10 Don’t contradict each other. You can use your tongue and you can use your hands. But always be soft in your approach unless your partner reciprocates your aggression. When you’re in a new relationship, both of you have to learn from each other. Let your partner take the lead in kissing for a minute or two before you switch and take the lead. By doing this, both of you can understand each other’s kissing styles and learn about what either of you like instead of turning a good passionate kiss into a confusing disaster. [Read: Perfect things to talk about in a perfect relationship]
If your partner gets aggressive or tries to dominate the kiss, let them take control for a while. And once you learn about their style of passionate kissing, you can improvise on your own kissing style to create something new and something a lot more s*xy and passionate. [Read: 25 relationship rules for passionate and successful romance]
Learning how to kiss passionately can be really easy if you use these tips. After all, a passionate kiss is more about understanding each other and the kissing styles and less about pouncing on each other at the first lip lock.