What do you do when life doesn’t work out exactly as you planned? When you don’t end up with that husband, two kids and white picket fence you dreamed about by the time you are 29? Or in that condo overlooking NYC conquering your dream career with your equally amazing partner by your side? Or maybe you’ve just gone on your fiftieth bad first date this year, and you’re not so sure you can take it anymore? What do you do?
That’s the question I often found myself asking when I was suddenly single just after my thirtieth birthday, living alone in a big city and unsure of what to do next. So often when we’re coupled up, we associate our own happiness with the significant other in our lives. That doesn’t have to be the case. After some soul searching, I decided it was time to take my life back into my own hands and enjoy being in the moment, single or not.
Here Are My Five Tips For Living In The Moment And Enjoying Single Life In Your 30’s:
- Remember Your Friends:
You may not be able to pick your family or predict when you’ll meet “the one,” but you can always choose your friends. And you definitely chose them for a reason – they make you happy! So spend some time reconnecting or continuing to connect with your closest friends.
- Get Comfortable With Yourself:
This may be the only time in your life that you’re alone. Enjoy the quiet and the fact that you only have to take care of you. I can’t tell you the number of married and coupled up friends who tell me that as much as they love their significant others, they really miss their alone time.
Go out! Meet people online, in person, or through friends. Be open to the possibilities of finding love or just getting to know new people. Sure, some of your dates might be terrible. But isn’t that part of the fun?
- Test Your Limits:
Remember that hobby you always wanted to try, but never found the time to do? Well now’s the perfect time. You’re single, not dead! Have a place you’ve always wanted to visit? Go there! Being shy all my life, I took it as an opportunity to test myself and join creative writing classes and young professional groups. See this as a chance to join new groups, make new friends and go outside of your comfort zone. You might discover something about yourself you never knew before!
- Enjoy It:
Above all, enjoy life! This will be the only time in your life that you’re in total control of where you go and what you choose to do, like travel to places you thought you wanted to wait to go to with “the one.” Sure, it was hard for me at first, but these experiences have all helped me make new friends, new memories, and overall, be happier. There’s no limit to what you can do. The world is one big globe filled with people just like you looking for love. And I promise you somewhere in this massive place we call Earth, there is a match (maybe even more than one!) that is just perfect for you.
So laugh at the good, embrace the bad, and go make some memories!