If your love life has gone stale or you just want to infuse the passion back into your relationship, check out these tips to bring back that spark!
Every relationship goes through the initial honeymoon phase, where both partners can’t keep their hands off each other. Soon after, responsibilities and your daily routine creep in, and the passion starts to fade. Just because you are both in that comfortable phase, doesn’t mean you have to lose the spark you once had.
However, the problem is that it takes work to keep it alive. Letting things go downhill is often a lot easier than pushing them back up again. You’ll need to commit to dates, go the extra mile to please your partner and exert the extra effort to rekindle that romantic spark. It may feel like a lot of work, but it’s well worth exerting the effort on, when you know that it can bring back the pep in your relationship step.
How to bring back the passion into your relationship
Both partners have wants and needs, and by respecting each other’s desires and making an effort in the relationship, you will have the passion back before you know it. Here are a few ways you can get the spark back into your relationship:
#1 Have date nights. Setting up date nights and sticking to those dates can be extremely beneficial for your relationship. Whether you have kids or a stressful job, you need time away from the chaos to be with your partner in a relaxing atmosphere.
Going out for dinner means that no one has to worry about making dinner, cleaning up, or slipping into the slump of falling asleep in front of the TV. You can both enjoy good food *which is an aphrodisiac* and fall back in love with each other’s company.
Communication, believe it or not, is one of the most important factors in evoking romance and passion between couples, and this is why date nights are so effective! While love is in the heart, passionate feelings and arousal starts with the mind. When you stimulate each other’s mind through communication, laughing, and sharing ideas, then the physical aspects will naturally follow.
You’ll feel more connected to one another, and the passion will re-surface. Plus, sitting across from each other gives you time to really look at your partner and admire what really draws you into them, whether its their bubbly personality, their infectious laugh or their quick wit. In doing so, your desire for your partner is likely to grow. [Read: 13 romantic dinner date ideas for the romantic couple]
#2 Surprises. Everybody loves surprises! Even those people who say they hate surprises wouldn’t mind getting a random little gift or a cute card every now and then. When gift giving is often only expected during birthdays, anniversaries and holidays, there is no more surprise, and instead, it becomes more of an obligation. You know that your partner will be giving you a gift on your birthday, you expect it, but you also know that they are somewhat obligated to do so, otherwise you will be upset.
Showing love throughout the year, and expressing yourself via loving gestures regularly *not just on Valentine’s Day*, can work wonders in bringing the romance and excitement back. Giving and receiving in a relationship feels nice for both parties, and lets the two of you know that you both are willing to put effort into showing your partner how much they mean to you.
#3 Thoughtful gifts. This is different from surprises. When you give each other gifts, do you put adequate thought into it? Or are you the type of couple to ask each other what they want and then gift it to them? While it’s nice to get exactly what you want, it doesn’t leave any room for imagination, since you’ll be expecting it.
Why not try something different and let your partner pick out things that they feel you would like or that represent you? You’ll get a chance to see how much they know you, and you’ll feel flattered that they put that much thought into a gift. Creative gifts are even better, and handmade crafts and your own compositions are those that your partner will remember forever.
When you listen to what your partner likes, you’re more likely to be able to pick the perfect present for them. So listen up, and pay attention to the little clues that your partner may mention. [Read: 25 sweetest romantic gestures for everyday life]
#4 Work on your confidence. Confidence is important in releasing your inhibitions, trying new things, and feeling good about yourself within a relationship. A common complaint in some relationships is a partner’s lack of confidence and its effect on their sex life or the romance within their relationship.
To enhance your confidence, take up a new type of exercise, buy new clothing, lingerie, get a make-over, or work on some of the insecurities you may have about yourself. Everyone has something within themselves that they want to work on, and everyone is capable of self-improvement. This will help you let your guard down and be more receptive to new levels of passion and romance within your relationship. [Read: 8 ways to get your body confidence back in the bedroom]
#5 Alone time. This is time for the two of you without kids, friends or relatives around. Alone time should be spent communicating with each other, so that you can feel close to one another. It’s not a time for negative talk or boring routine stuff, just time spent with each other to make sure that the communication is there. Communication is a large part of any relationship, and it really affects the romance within a relationship as well.
If you find that there’s often dead air between the two of you, don’t be afraid to open up a topic to your partner. Start with whatever common ground got you bonding in the first place, whether it’s a shared love of rock music, a particular hobby, or even an enjoyable experience you once had. Reinforcing the bonds you share during your alone time definitely helps ignite the spark you may be missing in your relationship. [Read: 12 things you can talk about to feel closer]
#6 Pamper and nurture each other. Life is filled with stresses and obligations that can really put a damper on your romantic relationship. Instead of letting it drag you down, why not help your partner to de-stress and feel pampered. Pampering each other will be a comforting way to bond and help the other feel like the center of attention.
Massages with lotion, back rubs, and bubble baths are ways you can feel pampered, worshipped, and close to your significant other. These will whisk your cares away, help you let your guard down, and bring back feelings of comfort and arousal for the both of you. [Read: 20 ways to make her a happy girlfriend, and 15 ways to make him feel appreciated]
#7 Spice up your sex life. Spicing up your sex life will do wonders for increasing the passion in your relationship. Needless to say, the first way to do this is to avoid doing it the same way every time. Routine breeds familiarity, and familiarity breeds contempt. Talk to each other about things you like and things that you want to experience sexually as a couple.
Take trips to the sex store together, talk dirty during sex, have extended foreplay, watch porn together, dress up, and role play to avoid a stale and staid sex life. There’s nothing wrong with experimenting together if it helps add a renewed spark to your relationship. If sex is an issue that could be negatively affecting your relationship, it could be linked to repressed feelings or health issues, and you may want to consider seeing a sex therapist. [Read: 10 naughty ways to eliminate that sexual dry spell]
#8 Get your adrenaline going. Be adventurous and do something that gets your adrenaline pumping, like rock climbing or indoor skydiving together. Adrenaline is a natural high, and it can add the necessary fun and fuel to your fire as a couple. Some couples who work out together or dance together are also known to feel more energetic in the sack, thanks to the heightened doses of endorphins running through their system.
Keep that spark alive!
It’s very easy for a love relationship to get too comfortable or even routine after some time. Both parties putting in the necessary effort will make sure the spark stays alive for years to come. Being in love is a beautiful thing, so prioritizing passion and romance into your relationship will add to the satisfaction that both parties crave.
Make sure that you listen and communicate with your partner about what they want and need from you. Passion and romance need the right environment to thrive, and by making it a joint effort, you’ll have all the necessary ingredients for a hot and steamy love life.