As you get older, the way you flirt changes. But there are some teenage flirting moves that will still work like a charm even when you’re an adult
Life was simple as a teenager. We weren’t distracted by jobs, bills, and commitments. We lived in the moment. We learned basic male/female interaction and flirting, but unfortunately as we get older, we lose some of the enjoyment. It all becomes a bit serious and calculated. Whatever happened to just having fun and seeing what happened?
You may think that if you use some flirtation moves you used to do as a teen, you’ll end up being labelled as immature. But in reality, the sweetness and innocence of the way teenagers flirt is a stark contrast to the more scheming and seductive flirting moves that we employ as adults.
So why not go back to those days of fun and harmless flirtation? You might be surprised at how effective they can be in securing the affections of the opposite sex!
Why we should flirt like teens even when we’re adults
Here are 6 ways we flirt as teenagers, which I propose we should continue to do as adults.
Teenage flirtation moves for guys
#1 Tease. This is massive. Women love being teased, no matter what her age. Remember back to how you would tease your female friends when you were young. They would giggle and maybe playfully hit you.
As adults, it keeps a fun vibe that is really important, especially when you are first meeting someone. We tend to be too safe as we get older. We don’t want to offend women, and end up being “too nice.” This inevitably winds up as a first-class ticket to the friend zone.
Use a bit of intelligence, obviously. Don’t try and tease her when she is opening up to you and saying something deep, or if you are talking about something sad. Teasing is for those lighthearted moments when you’re close enough to comfortably laugh at each other.
Imitate her, exaggerate what she is saying, pretend to take things the wrong way, or playfully poke her in the ribs and make her laugh. Women will be attracted to someone who can have a bit of fun and show himself to be comfortable around women, not putting them on a pedestal and pussyfooting around to ensure he doesn’t offend.
You can be extremely cheeky and get away with it, as long as you have the social intelligence to do it at the right time and you have a smirk on your face while doing it.
#2 Play fight. Women like strong, muscular guys. They love to fall into a man’s arms, and feel protected and overpowered. Don’t be scared to play fight a little, to excite her and keep that fun vibe going. Obviously, don’t just go and start grabbing random women you don’t know. Ensure that she is comfortable with you first, and then you can start messing around with her.
Pick her up and run down the street with her, start tickling her, or start a playful boxing match. Lots of physical flirting will inevitably get the girl excited and is a super easy way to fall into each other’s arms and make out for the first time.
If a girl is comfortable being very touchy and playful with you, it is a sure sign that she likes you. If she doesn’t, she will quickly let you know that it’s not okay. Flirting like this can be useful to gauge how things are going and see if she is into you or not.
#3 Exclude. If she doesn’t hear what you’re talking about, or she comes over mid-conversation, you can playfully exclude her from the conversation.
Tell her that you are talking about her, talking about something top secret, or talking about “boy stuff.” She will be intrigued and want to know what you are really talking about. This is an easy lead in to the two previous ways of flirting. If you exclude her, she will often start having a playful little hissy fit which you can imitate, or she may start hitting you and initiating play fighting.
When you decide to bring her back into the conversation, it is an easy time to pull her into you for a hug, initiating closeness in a smooth and natural way. She will happily snuggle up to you and be comfortable in your physical presence.
Teenage flirtation moves for women
#1 Giggle. There is a lot to be said for being in the moment and having fun. Men are naturally attracted to smiling women, and they love it when you giggle at their jokes – even if they’re not really that funny! Guys like to be around women that are fun and easy going, someone that they can have a laugh with, and maybe more. It’s a release from the stresses of life, the office, etc.
Especially when you first meet, if you come across as someone who is fun to be around and will be adding pleasure to a man’s life, he will be very interested in getting to know you better. The girlish giggle that teenagers do tends to be carefree and flirty, exactly what a guy wants to see. [Read: The secret to attracting men in a way they can’t resist]
#2 Slap/punch. On the arm! Not in the face, before you get any ideas. Guys love to playfight with women, it gives them a chance to show off a little and overpower you. It creates a playful environment where you are comfortable with each other and being in close proximity.
Unfortunately today, many guys are bad at reading when women like them and are overly hesitant to move things forward. If you have a playful vibe and initiate some playfighting, even the dumbest of guys can figure out that you are flirting and are probably into him!
Flirting is a two-way street, and if you want guys to flirt with you, you should flirt with them in return. Slapping or punching them *very* lightly on the arm in mock indignation is a good place to start, to draw him into a little playfight and some physical flirting. Maybe he will sweep you off your feet, literally.
#3 Pull faces. Pulling faces is a fun way to communicate, albeit a silly way. It shows that you don’t take yourself too seriously and that you are comfortable messing around a bit. It also shows you haven’t botoxed your face rigid!
It’s childish and silly, and that is exactly why guys like it. Not to say that men are childish and silly, but that it is nice to have some fun and play around a bit. People tend to take themselves too seriously nowadays and are obsessed with keeping up appearances. Letting loose a little bit and being carefree is an attractive quality to possess
Pulling faces will usually result in giggling as well, which as mentioned previously, is another fun, flirty thing that guys like.
Our teenage years are some of our defining moments. Think back to your time in high school, even if you didn’t have the greatest social life and weren’t at the top of the social pecking order, it is generally a carefree time of life. You enjoy having fun and messing around with friends, and the excitement of your first interactions with the opposite sex after you have started to “notice” them will likely never be rivaled.