The general notion for most of us about meeting our soul mate goes something like this: Cinderella fairy tales; a picture-perfect love story; silent talking; shy smiles; falling in love; starting loving everything in life; being understanding partners; getting married; living happily ever after.
But the reality is much different. Practically, nothing becomes picture perfect automatically. We need to invest our time and energy to make a relationship perfect.
A soul mate is considered our “better half”: someone with whom we are connected on a spiritual level, where the relationship exists eternally. It’s like our best friend, our true love and our life partner are not three different people, but one single person, with whom each day is a bliss. Each morning is a blessing, each night passes in gratitude.
However, in order to be prepared to have a relationship like this, there are certain things that you must do to be ready to meet your soul mate:
1. Love yourself
Everyone is different. Nature has crafted each person with particular qualities. You too are blessed with certain things that distinguish you from others. Love yourself. Just look in the mirror and realize how you are different. Love everything about yourself, because if you can’t fall in love with yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?
2. Enjoy your own company
Take time out for yourself. Walk in the woods or just people watch in a park one early morning. Develop a passion, polish your skills and enjoy solitude. Create your own saga of life. Write a diary, compose a song or just paint the colors you see. The idea is to enjoy in your own company. You can dance in the rain, sing in a bathroom, shout with the neighborhood kids—do anything to make yourself happy. Make yourself so interesting that you are never bored of yourself. Others love to be in the company of such people, so your jovial attitude increases the chances of you meeting your soul mate sooner.
3. Take responsibility
Admit the fact that, knowingly or unknowingly, you are the creator of your future. Your every thought, every word or every action is a creation. You are constantly creating your life. Whatever you are today is the result of the past. Accept the mistakes. Embrace your failures. Uphold the responsibility for your life, your career, your choices, your decisions.
4. Be confident
Can you imagine how difficult it is to constantly boost up a pessimist? It is fine to let your partner boost you up when you are really dismal, but the majority of the time you need to be confident. A confident smile can really do wonders. Wear the robe of confidence always: it’s the best makeup for a woman and the best suit for a man!
5. Be mature
Act with maturity. See the world from different perspectives, listen to people, understand their different perceptions and then speak up. Have a reason for your every act. Sharing your life with someone is a mature act. You must be adept enough to see through a person and analyze his or her actions. Many times words and intentions are not the same. A judicious, mature attitude will help you enjoy each other even more.
6. Be financially and emotionally stable
Certainly money can’t buy happiness, but many things are bought with money. Financial problems are a major cause of bitterness in many marriages. Hence, financial stability is a must. If one partner can pay for the household expenses, the other can save their money and plan for a vacation or a vocational course, something that you’ll both enjoy.
You also need to be emotionally stable. It’s very important to overcome the grudges and baggage of your past relationships and not bring them into your new one. You have to leave behind all kinds of negative thoughts in order to allow a positive relationship to begin.
7. Have clarity of thought
You must know your priorities in life. Your own dreams and desires must be clear to you. Your expectations and aspirations, from both the relationship and life in general, must be clear to your partner. This will allow your better half to prepare themself for your life ahead.
8. Feel special
Your choices, your preferences, your perceptions: they all make you special. You are the best version of yourself and no one else can play your role. Feel what’s special about being yourself. Gift yourself a chocolate or a brownie every weekend. Look in the mirror and compliment your own style. Just feel the bliss of your existence.
9. Find your own soul
Know your inner self. Discover yourself. Define yourself, in your own words. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Find your own soul. Because it’s only when you have found your own soul that you can find a soul mate.
10. Take care of yourself
No one ever likes a person who is mumbling and grumbling all the time. Make yourself so interesting that you yourself are never bored of your own company. No one likes to be around gloomy people. Everyone wants to be with happy people. Before you meet your soul mate, make sure that you are taking care of yourself: physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially.
11. Be happy and make others happy
Just focus on keeping yourself and the people around you happy. Your soul mate wants a happy person, too. He or she also wants to be happy in your company. You never know when the two of you might meet; but you will be ready to meet your soul mate at any time if you keep yourself happy.
12. Believe and be ready
Believe that your soul matethought that he or she is out there, to complete and complement you in every way, should make you smile. Most importantly, be ready to meet him or her: dress well, talk to people showing your true self, smile, be happy, be confident. Any moment could bring him or her into your life!
Remember: No two people have a perfect married relationship. No couple are called soul mates initially. It is the ever-increasing love, care and concern that makes them enjoy each other’s company and makes people start calling them “soul mates.”
May the divine guide you towards the unison with your soul mate!